Contrary to popular belief, relapses are not always caused by tough times. It’s easy to believe that people can stay sober until catastrophe strikes. Once it does, it’s a coin toss. Having a relapse prevention plan could prevent this. Interestingly, we’ve found that people who are serious about recovery can stay clean and sober through the most harrowing circumstances. Death, divorce, cancer—we’ve seen folks weather it all with grace and dignity without needing to pick up a drink or a drug. Instead, our experience shows that relapse triggers lead us backward when we let up on their recovery program. Here we cover a few common causes of relapse and how to avoid these potential pitfalls.
5 Common Relapse Triggers to Watch out For:
Isolation: Consider Having a Relapse Prevention Plan
For an alcoholic or addict who is engaged in a 12-step recovery process, backing away from regular, consistent meeting attendance and contact with sober guides is the equivalent of a patient who stops taking their medicine. Not everyone who stops going to meetings or loses touch with their recovery community relapses, but most people with contented, long-term sobriety find this component vital to our sanity and happiness.
Meetings and sponsorship are where one can fuel the tank and become re-energized, and learn, develop and practice the tools needed for sober living. These essentials connect us to a community of like-minded individuals, who give us support, inspiration, and encouragement. Moreover, this regular contact keeps us accountable: if you’re straying from the path, it’s probable that attending a meeting will give you a nudge in the right direction.
Regular contact with a sober fellowship and sponsor can be a crucial way to ensure that one isn’t becoming isolated. This offers us a place to be revitalized by familiar, compassionate faces. Chances are, if we’ve stopped going to meetings, we are no longer being afforded ample opportunities to practice the 12th step: carrying the message to those who are still suffering. As the AA Big Book and other 12 step literature makes it abundantly clear. Helping others is a critical component to staying sober ourselves. Having a relapse prevention plan set in place if you are feeling like this might be apart of your story is key.
Avoiding the Deeper Issues
Although meeting attendance is the lifeblood of sobriety for many of us, meetings alone are often insufficient to give us a deeper sense of ease and peace in our sobriety. While 12-step fellowships can offer community, friendship, and support, those things alone are generally not enough to prevent relapse triggers from taking hold. Although meetings might give us some relief, addressing the causes and conditions of our alcoholism or addiction gives us true freedom.
Most people considering going into recovery struggle to imagine a life sober. Especially one that is happy, comfortable, and full. The deep work of the 12 steps is what helps us get free of the thoughts, beliefs, and attitudes that made life so difficult. Working the 12 steps is where the real transformation happens. And as they say, “If nothing changes, nothing changes.” Going through this work with a trusted guide, such as a sponsor, ensures we’re likely to stay on the road to recovery.
Using Other Substances
The central explanation of alcoholism and drug addiction in Alcoholics and Narcotics Anonymous literature suggests that we have an allergy to alcohol or drugs, and no matter the amount we take, it sets off a crushing craving that is impossible to overcome with willpower alone. Once we trigger this response, we’re as good as gone. For example, someone who comes into AA to treat their alcoholism who begins using cannabis or sedatives to manage their anxiety may unknowingly be triggering their allergy and inciting a monstrous craving they have no hope of battling, ultimately leading them to relapse on alcohol, or their drug of choice. Of course, taking vital prescription medication under the advice and guidance of a doctor well-versed in addiction and aware of your history generally does not apply in this scenario.
So what about people who relapsed despite going to meetings, working the steps, and not taking other substances? Collective experience shows that in these cases, often the person might not have been “practicing the principles in all of their affairs” (part of the 12th step). People who continue to steal, lie, or cheat—or otherwise live in ways that look a lot like the behavior of a practicing alcoholic or addict—seem to often get so uncomfortable in their skin that they need some relief, which eventually takes the form of a drink or drug. In recovery, we don’t practice the principles just because we suddenly got “nice,” but rather because our lives depend on it.
The Importance of a Relapse Prevention Plan
Still others come into treatment or a 12-step fellowship curious, in disarray, and facing some ugly consequences, but who are not yet ready to stop. In these cases, relapse often seems imminent. This is generally because the individual is not willing to surrender their old life, seek help and take the steps necessary to achieve long-term sobriety.
Whatever the situation, relapse does not need to be a part of your story. Consider a relapse prevention plan. The experience of millions suggests that if you are willing to change, seek help, and follow some basic guidance, you don’t have to drink or use anymore.
If you are looking for a fresh start, and long-term, sustainable recovery, get in touch. We are here for you.